It’s 4:30 in the morning. I have been up the whole night, but I still feel fresh. I’m sitting on my bed with a bed table and my laptop on it. AC is running in the side, giving the cold air needed in Delhi’s summer.
But it wasn’t always that way, reflecting- when I first left home four years ago, the area we lived in was cramped. I liked it, though, even if the place was crowded, I had the freedom to do what I wanted with no oversight. Sleep when I wanted or work, however much I wanted. The first year went by in the excitement, and even with no AC in the flat, we survived. (It kind of sound like a first world problem now? Right? I know I cringed too)
It wasn’t just AC though, the money coming in was limited, and when you just move out, then there’s that extra pressure of what if and more so when you’re doing freelance and have no job security. I think that insecurity of job made me work harder, gain skills, learn more, and experiment. I did get in a rut though when you get comfortable- that’s when you need to change. You need something that makes you uncomfortable, which makes you push forward. For me, it was one of my friend, who’s my biggest motivation. (maybe a story for another time) But I did realize the decisions I made since then have impacted in life in ways I didn’t anticipate, and that’s life, isn’t it?
Power of Decisions
There’s a quote by Steve Jobs that comes to mind:
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
I truly believe the smallest decisions can have a massive impact on your life. I got into Social media marketing because ten years ago, I saw an old rickshaw driver crying while pulling a heavy load on the bridge and started my first page, “poor and RICH India.” The goal was just to inform people of the double phased society and upload real-life pictures, a sixteen-year-old, then I used to go to computer cafes (who remember those?) and upload images. I didn’t even have a mobile back then. That smallest decision changed my life path to who I’m today. The great people I met, the people I can help, and people who helped me to reach where I’m.
I’m sure there have been many situations like this in your life (want to share one in comments? will love to read it) where you just wanted to act. It just came from the heart and felt like the right thing to do. Did you work on those? If yes, how did it change your life? I have said it many times to my friends and shared with my colleagues that I genuinely believe “kindness” is the greatest asset one can have. If you’re kind, you can relate with people faster and find solutions that are true to their situation.
Types of Decisions
I define decisions into three types:
- Daily Life
- Heart (Gut) Decisions
Goal-Oriented decisions are when you know what you are working towards, many people have no idea what they want in life, and that’s completely fine. When it’s time, you will get your call on what you’re meant to do in life, and these decisions are a lot easier to take because you know what you end goal is- even if you don’t see a path, you know the road to go on, and you just need to take daily steps towards it.
And that leads me to the second decision type, daily life decisions- I’m sure many of you would take this lightly, but I think this is the most important.
There’s a quote
“If you just fulfill the promises, you made to yourself in the morning. You’ll be successful”
With success, I meant towards the goal you decided for yourself, be it better health, or making money or just taking the next step towards your long journey.
I still struggle with this, daily decisions require discipline and focus, and you need to be honest with yourself. Our mind always finds reasons and excuses not to do something or console us, and that in turn leads us to either moving slowly towards the goal you decided, or you walk off the road that was leading to your purpose in life. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about, reasons such as:
- I don’t have enough time.
- My sleep is essential.
- I won’t be able to do this.
- This is not me.
- I’m okay with how I’m.
I’m no genius either, and I also struggle with these. I define three goals to achieve daily, and rarely I accomplish all three. (sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t)
And here comes the most critical part, understand you’re human, and you can’t change past. So if you didn’t achieve your goals today, try harder the next day and then the next day and next. Forgive yourself and focus on the present.
I had issues with being busy, and I used to say “I don’t have enough time,” but I have never said these words in the last three years and trust me it isn’t easy, but when you get in the habit, and you understand how to do things in the priority you will know that you’ve enough time. (and no, I’m not kidding, haven’t said these words for three years because I have always felt it’s more about priorities you set if it’s a priority you will find the time.)
The third type of decision- Heart (gut) Decisions (I know both are different organs) are the one’s that you just feel you have to do. Standing up for someone, helping someone cross the road, or opening a door for someone or just being kind to people. You just feel that you need to do it. And these decisions are random acts. You might not think much while doing these, but any of these actions can have a profound impact.
I wanted to buy a gift for someone, at that time it just seemed out of reach, but due to that, I emailed my older clients if they had a project and I got a high-paying project because of that. The gift was just a part of it. But that decision was not a daily type or goal-oriented. I just wanted to buy the present and make my friend happy. There have been many instances like this when I have helped a client for free, and they come back later with a project or recommend the services to someone else. Have you had instances where you just feel like you need to make a decision?
Decision Without Action is Worthless
We can all make decisions. I used to dream about doing this or achieve that. But decisions without actions are meaningless—no matter what type of choice it is. You need to act on it. The universe can only help so much, it tests you if you even really want it, and you need to persist. Magic only happens when you persist when you show the universe you want it.
In conclusion, life is filled with decisions, and you don’t know the kind of impact your choice might have, so better bet is to be kind and be empathetic. Do your work and don’t expect results. Do it because you feel it’s right, do it because you know you’re on the right path, do it because you achieve your daily goals, do it because it makes someone happy, and do it because you know it will eventually make a world a better place.
Do write a decision in comments that had an impact on your life. Looking forward to reading them. Share if you know someone who struggles with making decisions. (: Be safe!